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When couples pursue different spiritual traditions and compete instead of supporting each other

My wife and I are both studying with different spiritual teachers — I'm working with a Zen master and she's deep into Sufi practice — and we thought this would enrich our relationship but instead we keep getting into these subtle competitive dynamics about whose path is more 'authentic' or effective. We both feel like we're betraying our individual practices when we try to find common ground.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two sincere practitioners are discovering that their separate apprenticeships are creating division rather than deepening their bond.

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