Periagoge
Scenario

When couples recreate the family patterns they're both trying to heal

My wife and I are both trying to break cycles from our families of origin but we keep falling into the exact same patterns with each other that we're trying to heal from. When she shuts down I become my controlling mother, when I get controlling she becomes her absent father, and we can see it happening but can't seem to stop it.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people attempting individual healing are discovering that their wounded parts activate each other in precisely the ways they're trying to transform.

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Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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