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Scenario

When couples enable each other's unhealthy patterns while trying to change

My wife and I are both workaholics trying to slow down and be more present but we keep enabling each other's patterns — she'll work late so I work late, I'll check email so she checks email — and we can't seem to break the cycle together even though we both want to.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Mutual behavioral patterns can be so entrenched that individual change efforts get unconsciously sabotaged by the system itself.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
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“Where Are You with Memory — how it works and fails?”

Peri

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