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When couples enable each other's unhealthy patterns while trying to change

My wife and I are both workaholics trying to slow down and be more present but we keep enabling each other's patterns — she'll work late so I work late, I'll check email so she checks email — and we can't seem to break the cycle together even though we both want to.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Mutual behavioral patterns can be so entrenched that individual change efforts get unconsciously sabotaged by the system itself.

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