My wife and I both came from families that handled conflict by shutting down and we've inherited that pattern - when we disagree about anything important we both just go silent and wait for it to pass, but now we have kids and I can see we're teaching them the same avoidance.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are unconsciously perpetuating the relational patterns they inherited, now extending them to the next generation.
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