My wife and I both came from families where conflict was handled badly and now we're trying to raise kids together but we both shut down when things get tense. We end up modeling the same avoidance patterns we grew up with and we can see it affecting our kids but we don't know how to fight better.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people must simultaneously heal their own conflict trauma while learning to navigate disagreement in front of witnesses who depend on them.
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