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Scenario

How couples navigate conflicting money trauma responses

My wife and I both come from families where money was either scarce or a source of major conflict, and now that we're doing well financially, we're having completely different reactions. She wants to save everything because spending feels dangerous, and I want to enjoy what we've earned because deprivation feels like going backwards, and we're stuck.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Past wounds around scarcity are creating opposite defensive strategies that prevent both partners from feeling safe.

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Patan
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