My wife and I both decided to quit drinking three months ago and we're doing okay individually but we keep sabotaging each other in subtle ways — like she'll suggest we go to places where we used to drink together, or I'll bring home fancy sparkling water that reminds us both of cocktails. We can't figure out how to support each other's sobriety without constantly referencing what we're giving up.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people attempting parallel behavior change discover their intertwined patterns of reinforcement create unexpected obstacles to individual progress.
“Where Are You with Habit formation and behavior change?”
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