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When couples with shared trauma recreate familiar dysfunctional patterns

My wife and I both grew up with alcoholic parents and we thought having that shared understanding would make marriage easier, but instead we've developed these elaborate ways of walking on eggshells around each other that feel exactly like our childhood homes. We're recreating the very patterns we thought we'd escaped.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Common wounds can become the foundation for recreating the very dynamics both people are trying to heal from.

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