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Scenario

When polyvagal awareness creates hypervigilance in relationships

My wife and I both have complex trauma and we thought learning about polyvagal theory would help us understand our triggers better, but now we're hyper-aware of every nervous system shift and it's like we're constantly monitoring each other for signs of dysregulation. The hypervigilance is exhausting and I think we've lost our natural ability to just be together.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Intellectual understanding of nervous system states can paradoxically increase monitoring and decrease genuine presence.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Polyvagal theory in practice?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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