My wife and I both have trauma histories and we thought therapy would help us understand each other better but instead we're comparing wounds and keeping score of who had it worse and I can feel us getting more distant even as we're supposedly healing.
More people experience this than they realize.
Healing work intended to create intimacy becomes a site of comparison and emotional competition.
“Where Are You with Mindfulness as psychological intervention?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.