Periagoge
Scenario

When couples' therapy reveals competitive trauma dynamics

My wife and I both have trauma histories and we thought therapy would help us understand each other better but instead we're comparing wounds and keeping score of who had it worse and I can feel us getting more distant even as we're supposedly healing.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Healing work intended to create intimacy becomes a site of comparison and emotional competition.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Mindfulness as psychological intervention?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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