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Scenario

When couples keep having the same fight despite therapy

My wife and I have been in couples therapy for eight months and we keep having the same fight in different forms — she says I shut down when things get emotional and I feel like she escalates everything into a crisis. Our therapist keeps trying to help us see each other's patterns but we can't seem to break out of this cycle even when we both recognize it happening.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught in a relational pattern that their awareness alone cannot dissolve.

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