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How couples maintain intimacy through fertility struggles

My wife and I have been trying to conceive for two years and the monthly cycle of hope and disappointment is destroying our intimacy — we have sex on schedule, comfort each other through the grief, but we can't seem to find our way back to each other as people rather than co-conspirators in this project.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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When a shared longing becomes the organizing principle of a relationship, the people can disappear into the want.

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