My wife and I keep having the same fight about money every few months and we've noticed we both retreat into completely different versions of ourselves during these conversations — she becomes this hyper-logical person I don't recognize and I turn into someone who just shuts down entirely. We can see it happening but can't seem to stop the pattern.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are unconsciously performing roles that prevent them from meeting each other authentically in conflict.
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