My wife and I started couples therapy six months ago and we're both 'doing the work' but somehow we've gotten more polite and distant with each other, like we're performing being a healthy couple instead of actually connecting.
More people experience this than they realize.
The tools meant to create intimacy can become a sophisticated form of avoidance when both people use therapeutic language to maintain the very defenses they came to address.
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