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Why comparing your inner experience to others' outer appearance hurts

Everyone in my meditation sangha seems so peaceful and together and I sit there feeling like my anxiety makes me the broken one who does not belong.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The illusion of others' equanimity is reinforcing shame about your own inner turbulence.

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