I can drop into deep states of compassion during loving-kindness meditation but I gossip about my coworkers every lunch break and hate myself for it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Cultivated states of goodwill haven't penetrated the unconscious social conditioning that drives interpersonal dynamics.
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