Periagoge
Scenario

When dhikr feels manipulative rather than devotional

I do dhikr to calm down when I am angry but it just makes me more agitated because I feel like I am using Allah as a coping mechanism

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The instrumentalization of spiritual practice for emotional regulation creates guilt about the purity of one's relationship with the divine.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Islamic psychology — nafs and spiritual wellbeing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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