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Scenario

How to connect with others when solitude feels safer than relationship

I feel safest when I am completely alone but also desperately lonely and I cannot figure out how to be with people without losing myself.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system seeks both connection and protection, creating an impossible bind when relationships feel dangerous.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Polyvagal theory in practice?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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