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How to connect with others when solitude feels safer than relationship

I feel safest when I am completely alone but also desperately lonely and I cannot figure out how to be with people without losing myself.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system seeks both connection and protection, creating an impossible bind when relationships feel dangerous.

Ideas that help explain it
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