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Why relationship patterns repeat despite conscious intention to change

I keep attracting the same type of emotionally unavailable partner even though I swear I will choose differently

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Exile parts unconsciously seek familiar dynamics while manager parts believe they are making conscious choices.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parts work and Internal Family Systems?”

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