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Why couples repeat the same arguments and how to break the cycle

I keep having the same fight with my husband about money and we both know exactly what the other person is going to say but we can't stop ourselves.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Relationship patterns become unconscious scripts where each person's defensive reaction triggers the other's, creating a closed loop immune to rational intervention.

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