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When you sabotage relationships despite wanting connection

I keep pushing away everyone who gets close to me and then feel devastated when they leave, but I cannot stop doing this even though I see the pattern clearly now.

Patan
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system learned early that intimacy equals danger, creating an automatic defense against the very thing the heart most needs.

Ideas that help explain it
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“Where Are You with Attachment theory — complete guide?”

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