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Scenario

When asking for space triggers abandonment fears

I tell my partner I need space but when she actually gives it to me I panic and think she's pulling away and want her attention again.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Internal contradictions around autonomy and connection reveal core confusion about what safety actually requires.

Your guide for this
Patan
Patan works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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