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When asking for space triggers abandonment fears

I tell my partner I need space but when she actually gives it to me I panic and think she's pulling away and want her attention again.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Internal contradictions around autonomy and connection reveal core confusion about what safety actually requires.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

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