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Why interest from others kills your attraction

I want to be in a relationship but when men show interest I immediately find them unattractive and start focusing on their flaws.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Receiving genuine attention activates unconscious beliefs about unworthiness that must be resolved by rejecting the giver.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Attachment in adult relationships?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.