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When forgiveness feels impossible but holding grudges is also painful

I've been trying to forgive my brother for ten years and I'm exhausted from trying but holding onto anger is also exhausting.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The forced pursuit of forgiveness can become another form of self-violence when natural emotional processing has been bypassed rather than honored.

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