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When you shut down during conflict and can't explain why

My partner says I shut down during arguments but from inside it feels like I am drowning and cannot reach the surface to speak.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The nervous system's protective withdrawal can feel like emotional death to those watching from the outside.

Ideas that help explain it
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