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When Making Amends Might Cause More Harm Than Healing

My recovery sponsor says I need to make amends to people I hurt, but contacting my ex-wife might reopen trauma for her that has finally healed.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The process of moral repair sometimes conflicts with the wellbeing of those we have already injured.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Moral psychology — how we make ethical decisions?”

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