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When urge surfing feels impossible with self-harm impulses

My therapist says to surf the urge but when I want to cut myself the wave feels like a tsunami that will never end.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Self-destructive urges can reach an intensity that makes the concept of 'riding them out' feel absurd and dangerous.

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