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Why unsent letters sometimes backfire

My therapist suggested I write letters to people I am angry with but never send them but reading them back makes me feel more hurt and angry instead of relieved.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Written expression of negative emotions may intensify rather than discharge feelings when not accompanied by conscious processing and integration.

Ideas that help explain it
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