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When adult children and aging parents disagree about independence

My adult kids keep trying to get my husband and me to downsize and move closer to them but we love our house and our independence, and every family dinner has become this subtle negotiation about our future that nobody wants to have directly.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Different generations define safety and autonomy differently, creating a loving standoff where everyone wants what's best but can't agree on what that is.

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