My best friend adopted siblings with severe neglect histories and I've been trying to support her but I keep saying the wrong thing or offering help that doesn't fit their specific needs — and I can feel her pulling away from me.
More people experience this than they realize.
The desire to help someone you love is bumping up against the reality that trauma-informed parenting requires specialized understanding, and good intentions without proper knowledge can feel more isolating than helpful.
“Where Are You with Trauma-informed parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.