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When longtime friendships shift after major life changes

My best friend and I have been close for fifteen years but ever since she got married last year there's this weird distance between us and we both pretend it's not happening. When we do hang out it feels forced and I think we're both mourning something but neither of us knows how to say what.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are grieving the loss of intimacy in their friendship but can't name what's changed without risking what remains.

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