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When longtime friendships change after marriage

My best friend and I have been close for fifteen years but ever since she got married last year something has shifted and we both keep pretending everything is fine when we talk but there's this distance now that neither of us knows how to name. I miss her but I also feel like I'm supposed to be happy she's happy and I don't know if trying to talk about it will make things worse.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are grieving the loss of intimacy in their friendship while being unable to acknowledge what's actually happening between them.

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