My best friend had her baby three weeks before I had mine and we thought it would be amazing to go through this together, but now I feel like we're constantly comparing everything and I can't tell if I'm failing or if her baby is just different. We can't seem to have a real conversation anymore without it becoming weird and competitive.
More people experience this than they realize.
The simultaneous vulnerability of new motherhood is creating comparison and competition where you hoped to find companionship and mutual support.
“Where Are You with The newborn phase — survival and attachment?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.