My brother and I are both taking care of Mom as her dementia progresses and he handles everything by researching solutions and making plans while I just try to be present with her and neither of us thinks the other is doing enough.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people who love the same person are slowly resenting each other because they've never acknowledged that grief and care can look completely different.
“Where Are You with Co-parenting after separation?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.