My brother and I have completely different comfort levels with Mom treating us like her advisors - he leans into being her 'consultant' while I still want her to figure things out herself. We're realizing we have opposite reactions to this role reversal and it's causing tension between us about how to handle her.
More people experience this than they realize.
The discovery that you and your sibling have fundamentally different relationships to authority and dependence, revealed through your parents' changing needs.
“Where Are You with When parents age — role reversal?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.