My brother got sober two years ago and the whole family dynamic changed - we used to bond over complaining and drinking and now he doesn't want to be around that energy, but the rest of us don't know how to connect without falling into our old patterns. Family gatherings feel awkward and forced now.
More people experience this than they realize.
When someone gets healthy, it can reveal how much the rest of the family was organized around being sick together, leaving everyone to figure out who they are when the old ways of connecting no longer work.
“Where Are You with Parenting across cultures — what changes and stays?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.