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Scenario

When one family member's recovery changes everyone's dynamic

My brother got sober two years ago and the whole family dynamic changed - we used to bond over complaining and drinking and now he doesn't want to be around that energy, but the rest of us don't know how to connect without falling into our old patterns. Family gatherings feel awkward and forced now.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

When someone gets healthy, it can reveal how much the rest of the family was organized around being sick together, leaving everyone to figure out who they are when the old ways of connecting no longer work.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parenting across cultures — what changes and stays?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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