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How to navigate old hurt in longtime friendships

My childhood best friend and I survived a lot of hard stuff together growing up but now in our forties she keeps bringing up old grievances and hurts like they happened yesterday, and I don't know how to honor our history while also moving forward.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The very shared history that bonds two people also contains unhealed wounds that resist both forgetting and resolution.

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