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When longtime friend groups outgrow their shared history

My college friend group still gets together twice a year but we've all changed so much that we spend most of the time reminiscing about who we used to be instead of connecting about who we are now. It feels like we're all performing our old selves and I wonder if we're holding onto something that's already gone.

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Sometimes the weight of shared history becomes heavier than the connection it was meant to preserve.

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