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When friendships from one life phase struggle to translate to another

My college roommate and I decided to stay friends and move to the same city after graduation, but we're realizing that our friendship worked in the contained world of college and now in real life we want different things. We're both trying to force it to be what it was, and it's making us both miserable.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are learning that some relationships are bound to specific contexts and trying to force evolution may harm what was genuine about the original connection.

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