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When friends' partners create moral conflicts in long-term relationships

My college roommate and I have been close for fifteen years but since she got married her husband makes comments that feel racist and she either doesn't notice or doesn't say anything. I don't know if our friendship can survive this but I also don't know how to bring it up without potentially losing her completely.

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