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When couples disagree about how much struggle children should face

My husband and I have very different ideas about how much struggle our kids should face — I want to protect them from the financial stress I grew up with, but he thinks that made me soft and wants them to 'earn everything' like he did. We're constantly undermining each other and I can see our kids getting confused about what we actually value.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two parents are transmitting conflicting values about resilience and protection, creating confusion about what strength actually means.

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