My partner and I have a three-week-old baby and we're both completely exhausted but we keep snapping at each other instead of admitting how scared we are that we don't know what we're doing. He thinks I'm being overprotective when I worry about every cry, and I think he's being too casual about feedings and sleep, and we're starting to feel like we're on different teams instead of the same one.
More people experience this than they realize.
The primal vulnerability of caring for a helpless being is exposing every difference in how you process fear and control.
“Where Are You with The newborn phase — survival and attachment?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.