My partner and I have been in couples therapy for eight months and we're starting to see these patterns that aren't just about us — they're about how we both learned to handle conflict from our families and how we're unconsciously recreating the same dynamics. Our therapist keeps talking about 'the system' but we can't figure out how to actually change something that feels so much bigger than just our relationship.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're discovering that your relationship struggles aren't just between you — they're inherited scripts from family systems that feel too vast and entrenched to change.
“Where Are You with Family therapy and systems thinking?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.