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Scenario

When couples disagree about what belonging means in their community

My partner and I joined this intentional community three years ago thinking we'd found our people, but lately we're realizing we disagree about what it actually means to belong here — they think it's about shared activities and I think it's about deeper commitment, and we're both starting to feel like outsiders. We can't figure out if the problem is us, the community, or our completely different ideas about what belonging even is.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are discovering that their fundamental definitions of belonging are incompatible, threatening both their relationship and their place in a shared space.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with What belonging is — a philosophical definition?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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