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When roommate friendships face conflicting social needs

My roommate and I became really close friends during the pandemic but now that life is opening up again we want different things socially and it's creating this weird tension in our living situation. She wants to go out constantly and I want to stay home more but we both feel judged by the other.

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Two people who found intimacy in shared isolation are discovering that their natural rhythms are incompatible when choice returns.

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