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When roommate boundaries get complicated by romantic relationships

My roommate and I have lived together for three years and she's been dating someone who basically lives here now without paying rent or asking, and every time I bring it up she gets defensive and says I'm being controlling, but I feel like I'm losing my own home.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are negotiating competing needs for autonomy and consideration, but old agreements no longer fit current realities.

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