My siblings and I promised each other we'd stay close as adults, but our monthly family calls have become these stilted updates where we share logistics but never talk about what we're actually thinking about or struggling with. We're all successful people with interesting lives but somehow we can't figure out how to be real with each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Siblings are maintaining the structure of intimate connection while avoiding the vulnerability that would make it meaningful.
“Where Are You with The examined community life?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.