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Scenario

When sisters have babies at the same time and comparison becomes competition

My sister and I both had babies within two months of each other and we keep comparing everything - sleep schedules, feeding, development milestones - and what started as sharing support has turned into this weird competition where we're both pretending everything is fine. Our mom keeps making comments about which baby is 'easier' and I can feel it creating distance between us right when we need each other most.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The natural desire to share early parenting experiences can morph into comparison and competition, threatening the very bonds that could provide mutual support.

Your guide for this
Rabia
Rabia works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Birth and early bonding?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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