My sister and I both promised Dad we'd take care of Mom but we have completely different ideas about what that means and she thinks I'm not doing enough while I think she's being controlling.
More people experience this than they realize.
The same promise can create competing visions of love when family members carry different strengths and different guilt.
“Where Are You with Authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.