My sister and I have been co-executors of our father's estate for eight months and every decision becomes a referendum on our entire childhood and who was the better daughter. We used to be close but now I dread every phone call and I'm starting to think one of us should just step down, but I don't know how to do that without it meaning she wins.
More people experience this than they realize.
The administrative task of settling an estate has become a proxy war for unresolved sibling dynamics and competing claims on parental love.
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